Well It's Official, Er'body Can Get Married In D.C.

Today I was having an interesting conversation with a friend about the term "cocksucker", and I said I would come here and blog about it in detail. However, I will reserve a blow-by-blow [pun intended] discussion on the art of cock-sucking for another day. I am more moved to comment on D.C.'s new law, which authorizes gay marriage.

I have watched the struggle for gay marriage rights from the sideline, and that's where I will continue to sit, on the sidelines. However, I feel the need to inject some points of view on the matter. I'd like to introduce a comparison between Brown versus the Board of Education of Topeka and laws that authorize gay marriage. In 1954, the courts determined, in the case of Brown vs. the Board of Education, that "separate educational facilities are inherently unequal" [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brown_v._Board_of_Education]. To understand the root of this particular struggle is to know that African Americans wanted the same supportive learning environments that White American students were privileged to have. Prior to this decision, special education did not exist and there were very few "gifted" programs. After schools were racially integrated, tactical strategies were employed to draw a divide between students based on intelligence, or lack thereof. Some of the negative outcomes from this court decision is that the modern day African American student is able to graduate from high school reading at a third grade level and/or matriculate through school as a 'special ed' student without a valid attempt to switch the student to a 'traditional' learning environment. Yes, tradition, quality and consideration went out the window when the Negroes arrived.

So I pose the following questions to concerned citizens and in particular, gay people: Why do gays want to be married; Do gay people want what straight people have; Do you think you will have a better chance at a successful marriage than your straight counterparts?

I believe that gay people should have the right to get married. Every working American pays taxes to support several institutions in America, to include the institution of marriage. When some of those taxpayers are not allowed to partake in an institution that they are financially supporting, it is unconstitutional, unfair, and unbelievable. So the struggle for gay marriage is a necessary struggle, but why do gays want to get married? If it's for the sake of sitting with a love one at their bedside during hospitalization, great! If it's for the sake of being the sole benefactor of a death benefit, fine! These unconstitutional technicalities can be addressed legally, but marriage does not appear to be the only answer for such matters. Based on statistics, marriage is more likely to end up in divorce. So why mess up a good thing by following the lead of your unsuccessful hetero-counterparts?

Is this about wanting what your neighbor has? Do gay people want ‘straight’ privileges? Ah, so this is more about authority, power, and justice. This is not about the issues of validating and supporting all couples. Some of the activists who are spearheading the struggle for gay marriage are not being clear in regard to the connection between power and privilege. If gays are treated just like their straight counterparts there will be less power for straight people. Here is the crux of the argument, and avoiding it will only yield a victory for those in power. Is there someone bold enough to say "yes, it is about wanting what your neighbor has, power, confirmation, and full citizenship"?

My hat goes off to those who immediately rushed down to the D.C. courthouse to get married. It gives the impression that you know what it takes to maintain a successful marriage. Maybe you know something that straight people don't, because over 50% of their marriages fail. In the case of marriage, straight people may have full control of the institution, but they clearly don’t know what the hell they are doing. I would urge each American that considers being a part of a particular institution to study it inside and out. Find out what has worked, what it has to offer, and what are some of the potential pitfalls. Had African Americans conducted this type of analysis in 1954, I don't think there would have been a mad dash to throw their children in the hands of people who didn't care. Consider the comparison mentioned here, conduct your own analyses, and Godspeed to each of you.

Badilisho, freelance writer and a newbie to proper commentary-
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