15 Examples of Adult Bullying

1. A husband or wife that is verbally, physically, emotionally or mentally abusive to their spouse
2. A typical bill collector
3. A driver that cuts you off for no logical reason
4. Someone who purchases a large vehicle with the intent to intimidate other drivers
5. A group of female friends that single out a friend because of her clothes and/or weight
6. A group of male friends that single out a friend because of his viriginity
7. A boss that abuses inherent authority to belittle their subordinates
8. A rude gatekeeper (receptionist, cashier…) that speaks to you in a passive aggressive manner
9. A person that promotes clan mentality/groupthink (politicians, KKK, fraternities, sororities, preachers)
10. A parent that is verbally, physically, emotionally or mentally abusive to their children
11. A teacher who tries to regain her classroom authority by picking on a child who is his/her apparent adversary
12. Politicians that run a campaign that is based on smears
13. A preacher who preaches hate and promotes unwarranted judgment
14. A person who verbally or physically assaults a complete stranger
15. An adulter/adulteress 

Bullying is an adult problem.  It starts at home and it starts with adults.  Our children are bullying each other because adults are teaching them how to be bullies.  

Badilisho

http://ibwriting.blogspot.com

Live In Love

Fear is debilitating. It expresses itself as meanness, rudeness, anti-social behavior.

Love is living.  It expresses itself as kindness, openness, connectedness.

If you are living in fear and/or promoting fear, you are working against your intended purpose as a spiritual and human being.  If you are tired of what you see going on in the world, live in love not fear and you will see things change almost abruptly. Stop thinking that you are better than the next person.  That way of thinking is a defense mechanism..a way to avoid judgment and criticism.  Stop saying "no" for no apparent reason.  Stop hiding from your true self.  Live in love not fear.  Hotep!

Telling On Themselves

Obsessive behavior suggests that the individual is dealing with their fears in an unhealthy manner.  In America, there are people that are utterly obsessed with homosexuality.  These people don't openly identify as homosexual, but spend an awful amount of their time and energy denouncing the "lifestyle".  They are categorically homophobic and their actions are strategic attempts to spread homophobic ideology.  The worst form of homophobia is that inflicted by a closeted gay or lesbian person.  In these instances, the venom is thick and more poisonous than that of their straight allies.  The reason the attacks are more vicious and concentrated have everything to do with an unresolved internal conflict, one that has not been dealt with in a mature fashion.  This behavior resembles the type of bullying that we see on playgrounds across America.  Often times, the truth is buried deep beneath rhetoric, verbal and/or physical attacks.  Yet, the attacker begrudgingly and secretly identifies with their targeted victim(s).

Michigan's Assistant Attorney General, Andrew Shirvell spends his free time harassing the student assembly president [Chris Armstrong] at the University of Michigan.  You can review his homophobic tirades at http://chris-armstrong-watch.blogspot.com.  Andrew Shirvell has spent time camping outside of the home of Mr. Armstrong.  Both his writings and his activities are great examples of obsessive behavior.  It is my belief that Andrew Shirvell is a conflicted closeted homosexual, and he is attacking Chris Armstrong because of Mr. Armstrong's open lifestyle.  

New Birth's Pastor, Bishop Eddie Long has utilized his pulpit to ostracize homosexuals.  You can view a sample of his work at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UItGijdsCf8.  In 2004, Bishop Long led a march against gay marriage, and he is the most visible and vocal spiritual leader that opposes gay civil rights.  It is my belief that Bishop Long is a conflicted closeted homosexual, and he has been attacking gays publicly while maintaining a secretive and active gay life.

What Shirvell and Long have in common is their inability to resolve a personal conflict without hurting others.  They both have resorted to attacking those that are comfortable and open with their homosexual identity.  Both men, and I use that term loosely, remind me of children on a playground bullying those who are already facing an enormous struggle to fit in. 

The next time you hear or see someone applying passion to an issue that doesn't warrant a high level of energy or involvement, question their motives!  Ignore the honorary titles and positions, minimize their rhetoric and ask the question "What is it to you...what is your vested interest?".  If you take the time to ask yourself that question you will avoid getting caught up in their madness, and you will see the truth.  Their behavior will be telling.

I am encouraging people to embrace critical thinking and avoid being lazy followers.  Hotep!

Badilisho

http://ibwriting.blogspot.com