I've heard several guys ask questions like this out of sheer frustration, and usually I have no response for them. However, last year I put some thought in to the question and came up with the following explanation. We live in a capitalist society that doesn't want people of color or subgroups to gain power. Gays are at the lowest end of the power structure, and blacks are just barely above that. When you are gay and black you are systematically fucked at birth. That fucked up status transfers to our relations and the worth we place on each other, which is usually little or nothing. So relationships are doomed or difficult to hold on to. So, most men just settle for temporary satisfaction. Therefore, gay black men aren't the sluts they appear to be, they are just overt realists living in pain. Now, if you want to change all of this, start placing a high value on yourself and your brothers. Fight the system in big and small ways. Believe your own truth and live life the way our creator intended.
Badilisho, freelance writer and a newbie to proper commentary-
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"Therefore, gay black men aren't the sluts they appear to be, they are just overt realists living in pain."
ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting argument and one that I had never really considered before I read this. However, I wish this post was longer and that you had developed this a little more. I think you're really onto something.
"Therefore, gay black men aren't the sluts they appear to be, they are just overt realists living in pain."
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with this statement. The key really is learning to value yourself and your experiences.
Great post!